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In a recent interview, Charlie Sheen was asked if he has ever hit a woman. He replied, "Women are not to be hit. They are to be hugged and caressed."
I don't know much about Charlie Sheen. Or anything, really. But that one sound bite is enough for me to determine that he is an asshole.
Women are not to be anythinged, Charlie. They are neither your punching-bags, nor your body-pillows.They do not exist for your use. They are just people.
There are a lot dudes who are like Charlie Sheen. They say, "I'm not sexist! I think women are pure and lovely angels, who should be put on a pedestal." And when women prove to not be angels, but people with inner lives and ambitions and standards, these guys show their colours as the kinds of misogynists exhibited at man boobz - those who cannot comprehend that women do not exist for their personal gratification.
There's this idea in our culture that is perfectly expressed by FCUK's ad copy. "This is the woman. She is a very special thing." That is to say, "You don't get to be a full human being, but don't feel bad about it, because you're still so special." The idea is so ingrained that it even shows up in washroom signs.
Who wants to be a person, when you can be a beautiful, delicate flower instead?
Cheris Kramarae and Paula Treichler wrote that, "feminism is the radical notion that women are people." It's clear that the idea remains a radical one.
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